Christmas day. For some people its the best day ever, watching their children enjoying their gifts, watching TV after over eating.

but to so many, its the worst day, lonelyness, nowhere is open, their usual go to places are shut, families are too busy to see you.

I had hoped that I would have had a number of locations which are open for people to attend, so they dont feel so alone. Somewhere they felt included, somewhere they could talk to somone who wanted to listen, but life got in the way and I havent been able to update the site as much as I want. So, I'm going to make some changes to anybody can add Mental Health Drop-in's and Crisis Cafe's.

It is so easy to look outside and see people moving about, and assume they are too busy to talk, to take time to connect. The currage to take that first step and make contact, make that connection we all need is, is very hard. We have many reasons not to take that step, that jump. Where as we only need one reason to do it. And that is, for us.

They may be too busy, they may not have the time, and you will never know, unless you take that step, assume that they dont have time for you. Someone told me a long time ago, Assume does only one thing. It makes an ASS out of U and ME -- ASS U ME

Where ever you are, I trust you had an ok day.

Thank you for all the feedback I have received. The best feedback was confirmation on the format and layout. especially the search engine for the recovery colleges, where its not cluttered with images or adverts etc. The person indicated they were dyslexic (dyslexia) so this format was easy for them to read. Any further feedback like this, or any feedback would be welcome.

I have no intention to put adverts on this site, as that will hide the reason for this site. I may put a link back to the hosting service but that will be it for the foreseeable future.

I've been really busy the last week or two, but I think its time to start adding Mental Health drop in centers, and Crisis Cafe's.

The mental health dropin centers may offer events such as trips out or events such as yoga, indoor tennis etc.

The Crisis Cafe may not actually serve food, the concept is its a safe place you can go to if you need support either 1-2-1 or just to be around other people, as sometimes a crisis can be due to being alone.

Please let me know if you have a place you go to, specificly to manage your mental health, where you dont have to have a clinical diagnosis to attend.

I have completed the list of courses which are adviertised in the latest list of courses.
Will need to revisit once the new timetable goes live.

There are currently 15 courses being provided

Thought of the day.

Why do you do what you do?
I think we all follow a determined route. In the end, we have all got the same outcome. How we get there can be different, but the final outcome is the same.

What ever you do, where ever you go, nothing you can do will change the outcome. This is also the same for the person next to you, and the person next to them.

With this thought, what is the benifit of becoming angry, or upset, or annoyed?
Most of the time, we become angry about a problem, then we get angry at others because they arent as angry as we are about this problem.
It is important to understand, this is from their point of view, we can not control the way people see subjects, or even us. That is their own perception of us, their own ideas on how we should be, what we should be doing. But we have our own ideas how we should be, what we should wear, where we should go and be.

Because we can not control what others think, because we are unable to control them, it goes the other way too, they can not control our thoughts about them.
My perspective on this is, what ever they say to me, is a suggestion, and will only be a suggestion, what ever the subject is.
That means, I can listen to their suggestion, and I have the power to either reject their suggestion, or accept their suggestion and act on it.

So, if somebody is angry, its not at me, or even consern me. They can voice what they are angry about, and I will to my best ability, try to provide an alternitive view point on the subject. But the anger they are feeling is only a feeling they feel. It may be shared with others, meaning other people may be angry about the same subject, but it will always be unique to them. the situation causing the anger will be different with everybody. Even the weather will influance the way people feel about a subject.

The solution is, accept that people will have different opinions to you. Even if it seems to be the same. What ever caused them to feel that way will never be the same way you view the same subject. Even if the peceived outcome appears to be the same.

Talk, listen, understand, and their view point may result in a changed opinion, changed thought, less anger and less stress.